I used to work on retainer, helping direct strategy for some of the internet’s biggest brands.
Until it didn’t.
Until I noticed a growing sense of unease over whether I was helping.
On the surface of course I was helping. By and large the businesses I partnered with were growing and models were aligning and profit was increasing and all was good in the world.
But underneath the surface it wasn’t as rosy. I know how to grow businesses, and the entrepreneurs I was helping hadn’t had that experience before, so they were ceding decision making to me.
But it doesn’t work (can’t work) that way, and by making their decisions, I was hurting the same businesses I was trying to hard to help.
Because I was allowing the CEO’s to stay in their comfort zones
Because my presence meant they weren’t facing the real emotional choices + hurdles only they could face
And so I stopped offering retainers.
Now I guide, show and teach but don’t...
Let’s talk about 2 things that happen when you put intention around your business connections - what happens when you stop being fine with whoever happens to show up and instead get clear on who you want to be connected to:
1. You’re never left feeling weird or uncomfortable or awkward when someone asks you to do something that is exactly the opposite of what you want to do.
We’ve all been there: Someone reaches out and you get all excited. But when they send you the pitch it’s...not so exciting.
Maybe it looks a whole lot like spam. Maybe it looks like a desperate attempt to grab your list. Maybe it looks like a big waste of time.
You can stop that from happening. You can build a world of people around you who would never suggest an idea you weren’t into because they’d never be into it either.
2. You get to choose where you put your body. Right now a lot of us are looking around realizing how not diverse our worlds are, and wondering how that...
I talk a lot about intentionally building relationships and connection and keeping it a consistent priority if you want to keep consistent income flowing in your business.
I also talk a lot about how that intentional word is the most important one, because when you’re not intentional about the relationships you’re creating, this is going to happen:
The people you meet and the people you build relationships with will be random. Maybe there will be some good fits, even great, maybe they’ll all be terrible fits and most likely a whole bunch of them will be ‘fine’ fits.
Fine is not great. Fine is passive. Fine is time-wasting. Fine is saying you’re fine with good enough.
Here’s the problem with good enough: Whether you sell by funnels or 1:1 or through your podcast or whatever method you use to reach your clients and customers, I’m betting relationships are at the core.
You may not realize it at first, but think about it.